School Daze by @FarRuckaway

Where dreams go to die…

Like many kids my age, I grew up with dreams and visions of a future fueled by my parents’ idea of what they wanted of their progeny. “What are you going to be when you grow up?”… A question we have all faced at a point or another, in school or at home. Many of us either do not remember our first dream or have given up on it around the same time we did our virginity. My dream, at first, was to be a physician; my father was a physician and our family counts 7 doctors and nurses. That dream however took a turn at “rapper” lane, another at “music producer” avenue to finally face the “parent expectations and disappointment” cul-de-sac. Needless to say I was not the only teenager with dreams to make millions rapping or shooting in the gymmmmmmmmmmm!!!! (Sorry, I couldn’t resist).

High school came and went, and soon enough, at the tender age of 18, I was on my way to University where I took up psychology as focal point of study. My father (M.D, B.Sc., M.Sc. & PhD) was not too happy with the idea of me studying something as “frivolous” and unrewarding as the study of the human mind and its functions.

Between his constant complaints and my lack of interest and preparedness to tackle post-secondary schooling, I dropped out and got the fuck up out the paint. The following years saw mostly arguments and fights with my parents while I tried to find something I REALLY wanted to do for the REST of my LIFE. Focus on these words for a minute;

While I struggled to find my true calling and bounced from one call center job to another, my high school classmates graduated, wore the cap and gown and proceeded to flourish…
Wait… nah, it didn’t really go down like that. They graduated all right; only once they did, they hung their degrees on the walls and proceeded to join me in the call centre plantations.

The thing about the school system is that once you graduate high school and make it to college/university, you’re on your own. They no longer care about your future. They care about the money you will pay them, or borrow in order to pay them, along with the image they preserve by bell curving grades and other tricks they use to hide the fact that they’re failing you. Subsequently, you find yourself $30k+ in debt, inexperienced in your field and career-less. This last part applies more to university students, as most bachelor programs are theoretical unlike collegiate programs, which often teach hands on.

“Weltanschauung”; is a German word that refers to a worldview or way of thinking donned by an individual or group. Too many of us think or thought that going through the books, the sleepless nights, the borderline Wikipedia plagiarism that encompass post secondary education, would bring us to the doorstep of our dreams. I am not here to tell you that you are fucked; I am here to tell you to be careful and re-evaluate. I know first hand that there is a lot of pressure by our parents to jump immediately to university/college after high school. I also know, and most of you will agree, that I had no idea at 18, what I truly wanted to do in school. I changed my way of thinking regarding that whole ordeal. Being the indecisive person I am, I chose to think of this whole scenario backwards; rather than thinking “I’m going to school, then I’ll have a good job, then I’ll have the Mercedes with the spoiler”, I started at the Mercedes, then thought of the income I would need to purchase it comfortably, then researched careers that provide that kind of money.

This may not be the solution for everybody but the main point in this is; take your time, life is not a sprint, it’s a marathon. Don’t go into bullshit programs like social studies, sociology, general arts or tourism and think you will walk out of there and right into careers as…. A sociologist? (They make like 30k), flight attendant? Hotel manager? If that is your dream then by all means… If it ain’t, re-evaluate and focus on something you know; $$$$$!!!

Do not go throwing away your money because you think you’re doing the right thing.

As for me, I’m halfway through my Kinesiology major and will follow that with hopefully a master’s in epidemiology (Google may be your friend here). I finally figured out what motivates me and what I love; you should too.